As I think about life – a Christian’s life – there are two important questions. The first is, “What is the purpose of a Christian’s personal life?” I think a Christian’s life is a test. We can’t earn our salvation but we can show that it is real by how we live and the decisions we make.
The second question is what I’m really writing about today, and that is, “How do the choices we make affect our lives?” I have a friend who bemoans life and blames fate. But if we believe all are born equal in God’s sight, how do many people end their lives saying – as someone said to Granddad – “I have a heart of stone.” Like Josef Stalin, he fears neither God nor man. We all know what Stalin did, and yet he went to theological college for five years. On his deathbed his daughter wrote, as he died, of frightening terror on his face. How did this happen? He wasn’t born a bad person, neither did he suddenly become wicked. He just made one little wrong choice after another until, in the end, he too had a heart of stone. What people like him forget or dismiss and reason away is that according to the Bible, we will all stand before God and give an account of our lives.
Now you are a Christian on the threshold of adulthood. That’s one wonderful and fundamental decision you have made. The angels in heaven are rejoicing! But the demons in hell are mobilizing to get you on their side and they will never let up until you die and are with Christ. I’m speaking from hard experience.
Perhaps it is more difficult for a girl born as beautiful as you to make the right choices than it is for an ugly girl - because you will have more frequent and greater temptations.
Firstly, what are you going to do with your life? What direction shall your studies take? A very important question and one that you may change many times as you think about it. A good test is to ask yourself if Jesus Christ would be happy to see you working in that environment. When I met Granddad while I was in my final year at school, I had every intention of becoming a concert pianist. But as you know, I gave up this dream by marrying a minister and have ended up, through gifts of God, becoming a poet and composer of church music. It has and is giving me more joy and purpose even in old age than if I had been a second Rubenstein. So remember, God has a plan for your life, follow him and you’ll see.
Secondly, marriage. We live in an age where marriage and family life, ordained by God, is an old fashioned concept in much of the Western world. But it is God’s way. How do you choose a husband? If you are an ugly girl, you might be tempted to take anyone. That would be disastrous! But you will have many wanting to marry you! Of paramount importance is to choose a Christian – start early by having lots of Christian friends. If you live in the world, your chance of marrying a Christian is slight. Then too, when you meet the man of your dreams, don’t think only of wedding dresses, honeymoons, flowers, bridesmaids, but discuss things that are important to you. Get to know each other during this time. See if you have really found Mr Right! I pray that, like your two beautiful cousins, you, too, will marry a fellow Christian. It’s a very good choice!
However, we may make wrong choices, and we all do, but when this happens, don’t despair! King David made one bad choice after another when he saw the beautiful Bathsheba, but God accepted his repentance and continued to bless him. However, the consequences of his actions remained and he suffered for them. God is not Father Christmas. Made in his image, he gave us a brain – and yours is very good – so use it!
Lots and lots of love for a long and happy life in the way God has planned for you